Following on...

"Cautious, careful people, always casting about to preserve their reputation and social standing, never can bring about a reform. Those who are really in earnest must be willing to be anything or nothing in the world's estimation, and publicly and privately, in season and out, avow their sympathy with despised and persecuted ideas and their advocates, and bear the consequences."
Susan B Anthony.

So.... watching so many of my friends suffer from "shit happens" always makes me think, not always in nice ways either. You see, while I am largely a nice person, somewhere inside me there's a bitch and every once in a while she gets let loose. Like a good friend of mine, I'll take a lot, and put up with a lot, and stay quiet, calm and whatever through a lot, but, (you knew there was a but didn't you?) BUT somewhere, depending on the topic and the people involved, there WILL be a line in the sand and if anyone steps over that line they better watch out. Oftentimes it takes a lot, but once that line is crossed, the gloves are off. There's a few people out there who have experienced that for themselves and you know, I make no apologies for it. It's not something that happens often, so when it does, it's generally for a reason.

Anyway, I was digressing. I was watching the soap opera that is life, and I was thinking, and I actually got sad and frustrated...

Why is it that so many women fall for that totally ridiculous fallacy that says "I'm attached therefore I exist"???? (Don't make me name names lol) Seriously. Even when I was in a place where I was beginning to wonder if I, as a person, existed, it wasn't because i didn't have a man, it was because I didn't want the one I had and there were a few things in the way of losing him.

"Women tend to make a relationship their life, their identity, while men make it a part of their lives." Now how freakin true is that? And how wrong.....
Nobody is going to love you if you don't love yourself, and nobody is going to respect you if you don't respect yourself enough to expect them to.

Too many women are so busy trying to make him want them that they fail to stop and ask themselves if they want him in the first place.

Some women are so desperate not to be alone with themselves that they go to lengths that make the rest of us go "WTF?!?!?" They're the ones who not only put up with behaviour most of us would consider unacceptable, they take the blame for his doing it in the first place, and somehow makes themselves responsible for his bad behaviour. So he doesn't have to accept responsibility for anything, there are no consequences of whatever he did and is free to do it again, indeed he's almost validated in his behaviour.

I swear sometimes I not only don't understand the human species, I don't even understand my own gender. Okay maybe I do understand, I just don't like it.