Community

There is a Mexican proverb than in essence says that a house is not built upon the ground but rather upon the woman at its heart.

We are women, we are mother, daughters, sisters, we are the givers of life.

Without us, a house is just a house. We are the heart that beats within, we are the soul that brings a place to life and enables it to grow into a home.

Without us there is less colour, less life, less soul, less vibrancy and less love. We are the ones that turn it into a home, whether it is a mansion, a small apartment, a trailer, a car, a cardboard box or a doorway. We are the ones who care, nurture, tend, love and protect our homes and those within them. It's what we must do.

It is also what we must do for our communities. We are just as much the heart of our community. We need to bring that life, love and nurturing to not only our homes but also to our wider community.

We must join together to breathe life into the community within which we live.  We must take it, shape it and nurture it, make it our own and help to create a strong, vibrant, living community for who live within it.

It is time to call on the memories of women of old, our mothers, and grandmothers, throughout time who did exactly that without even thinking about it. Community was a way of life for them, not something to work at or think about, simply something they did, every day. They were the beating heart not only of their families but also of their wider community.

It is time to assume the mantle that they bequeathed to us that was forgotten by progress and the advancement of civilization,  for if there was ever a time the world needed us to create community, that time may well be now.

Neighbours no longer know neighbours, families are scattered across the county and across the world. Community once had meaning, when joys, and tragedies, felt by one were felt and shared by all.

In many ways progress is a good thing, occasionally though there is a need to step back and recreate something from the past, in our own way, for our own time, and make it new and relevant again. It is time now to make community mean something again, not some vague ideal, rather a living breathing reality for the benefit of all who live there.

RAOK and my life in the 'hood

So I went shopping today - made myself broke but that's nothing new lol Did pick up a #Flames hockey shirt AND jacket for Spawn in Value Village for a total of $13 so that was a score! And a book for me - I'll ignore the evangelical and biblical parts of it - pretty sure I can still find something useful in it - Everybody wants to make a difference - practical ways to change the world.

Kinda fits in with my state of mind lately. The same state that asked advice from @careyfuller and now wants to strike up a conversation with the napping homeless couple and "just ask them what they need apart from housing" - asked her for advice on what an 'average Joe' can do for the homeless in their own 'hood.... Makes sense to me.

Last week when I made cupcakes I left a plate of them for the roofers - even though they were freaking out my dog - he has issues due to his life before he went to Oopsy Dazy Foundation - and today when I picked up the last books for Spawn's set I grabbed a second (almost( complete) set. Took that to school and gave it to his kindergarten teacher for her class - as I said to her, I wasn't sure if I was violating some etiquette or protocol but I wondered if she would like them for her class. She said yes please and thank you so.... Well, everyone is always saying how bad #CBE cuts are, and it makes little difference to me. And they ARE cool books for kindergartners lol

What can I say? It's just the way I roll - my own special brand of insanity :p

Livininthehood #4 #warongardens

As is usual I find myself wondering many odd things in the course of the day. @JeninCanada wondered how much trouble she'd get into if she turned her front yard into a vegetable garden instead of leaving it as grass. It's a question I've wondered too - not that I have a yard right now, front or back since we live in a rental complex that has shared green space - yet it's something I've wondered in the hypothetical.

Why IS it such a crime to take time and resource consuming lawn and turn it into something more useful, less wasteful and often more visually appealing? Everyone bombards us with instructions to eat better, get healthier, lose weight, feed our kids more fruits and vegetables, avoid pesticides, etc. Government is always telling us that north America is suffering a plague of obesity and poor health.

Then doesn't it make sense to allow people greater access to fresh produce instead of restricting it? To allow people to grow fresh fruits and vegetables in their own yards and to increase the number and availability of community gardens. Especially in less well off neighbourhoods where people often have least access to affordable healthy foods.

I know it's a pet peeve of mine that there isn't a community garden within walking distance of here, and I do still believe that our 'Hood is one that could seriously benefit from having its own community garden if we could find a space for it.

Seems to me that the so called war on garden ( #warongardens) has a lot more to do with power, control and conformity than it has to do with vegetables. Maybe my sense of logic is just skewed, but wouldn't we all be better off if there were more vegetable gardens and less lawn? Like a re-designing of the Victory Garden campaign? Wouldn't we all be better off, and healthier, if more people were allowed to plant up gardens and eat and share their produce? One neighbour has too many tomatoes, so swaps them with another who has a surplus of onions, say. What is wrong with that? OTHER than taking control out of the hands of government and putting it back into the hands of the people? (The people who government is supposed to be working for, FYI.)

Instead apparently there is a war on gardens in many places just now, we won't even mention the chickens ;) Is it any wonder that Guerilla Gardening is taking off in more and more places? There shouldn't be a need for it but there is - as the saying goes, it is often easier to get forgiveness afterwards than to request permission beforehand.

Meanwhile the powers that be continue to tell us to be healthier, while at the same time denying us the opportunity to do it for ourselves. As long as it is about power and control instead of about people and food, there will continue to be a need for guerilla gardeners and for those who dare defy convention and turn their lawn into vegetables. Just a thought.

Livin' in the 'Hood 3

Walk to school yesterday got a little faster when my walking companion got a text from her teenage daughter that she was having an asthma attack at high school. So L had to run grab the kindergartener out of school early then head for the high school. Last time it happened to the teenager she passed right out cold and the school had to call an ambulance. Same teenager already has issues since a tip to the dentist revealed that as suspected her TMJ is out of line and needs treatment. So a call was made to the specialist and guess what? That costs $230 just to walk in the door and get an appointment. Up front. No direct billing. And the insurance won't cover it. At least not unless the specialist direct bills, the insurance refuses it and then it gets appealed. But the specialist won't direct bill anyway.

AND that's $230 just to get in to see him, no treatment, nothing. Like most of us L doesn't have a spare $230, plus everything that'd come afterwards, in her pocket to pull out at the drop of a hat. So how is the teenager supposed to get the treatment she needs?

Everything is getting more expensive, almost by the day, and people have less and less money left over after they pay the bills, rent/mortgage, buy food, pay school fees, insurance etc. Especially around here. I know too many people here who were living pay check to pay check because there was never anything left over, only now, as the cost of everything is rising and wages are not keeping pace it's not so much living pay check to pay check as can we make it from one pay check to the next? Or, who can wait till the next pay check and who NEEDS to be paid now. Between what groceries/clothes/school stuff do we need now and what can wait until the next pay check?

It's not just a few facing those dilemmas nowadays, it's an ever increasing number of people as the cost of everything rockets. Something is very off in the 'Hood and getting ever more off as time goes by.

Livin' in the 'Hood 2

Got home from school, took the dogs outside for a pee and the little neighbour girl was over the road waving at me. She's a sweet thing, no more than 3 yrs olds, and unfortunately mostly unsupervised when outside just like most of the other around here. There's more than one 2 yr old who runs around playing outside in the parking lot, green space and roadway with minimal if any adult supervision. It's a miracle none have been hit by a car yet or had something equally bad happen to them.

Something like the potential accident I ran into on the way home from school. Walking down the alleyway (back road) - which I may have mentioned serves 4 schools in one small area - when I noticed something on the ground. Then another. Some kind of pill, no idea if they were OTC or prescription but they sure shouldn't have been lying on the road. Probably went out with the trash and ended up not in the trash can, just waiting for some little kid like the aforementioned girl to come along and pop it in their mouth thinking it was candy.

Stupidity like that just annoys me, big time.

People, dispose of stuff properly - pills, glass, everything! Last week it was condoms in the alleyway, this week pills. What next? A needle, a knife? People this may be the 'Hood but it's our "Hood, we live here, can we at least TRY and take care of it and the people in it?

Livin' in the 'Hood 1

School year is under way and that means spending more time hanging around outside school, waiting to go in or waiting for ids to come out, and THAT means more time hanging around with or listening to my neighbours and all the other mums at the school doors. Never underestimate what you can learn at the school door if you pay attention.
I may not know all of them, by a long way, but they're all my neighbours in that we all live in the same "Hood - that's why our kids go to that school. In fact we live in half the 'Hood since that's one of two elementary schools that serve the area.
People have laughed at me for saying I live in the "Hood unfortunately it often feels like it's true. More than that, it often feels like here in Calgary when you say "I live in the "Hood," the next question off the listeners lips is "Which one?"

As "Hoods go ours isn't too bad, in some ways. In others.... Demographics are interesting - we have a higher than average immigrant population, more visible minorities, higher ESL and more poverty than many areas. We also have a high percentage of rental properties and therefore a correspondingly high turnover of residents as people move in and out. Pretty sure I've mentioned that before. We do NOT have a higher than average crime rate even though there is a perception that we do - as has often been said the fear of crime often outweighs the reality.

Yet it often feels as though we are one of the forgotten neighbourhoods, that we're too difficult? too transient? to new and fresh? to be worth bothering with. Pretty sure I've said that before. We do have our share of homeless, drunks, panhandlers and wannabe gangsters who hang around the strip malls in groups trying to intimidate anyone and everyone who walks past.

Oddly we had three people killed by the C-train here in the space of ten days recently - two a block north from me and one a block south. And we did have a guy shot to death last year in the next door bar - rumour has it that it was a hit.
We do have our resident drug addicts and dealers and boosters - someone should tell them that conversations in the parking lot carry around here dude.

We have, just in our apartment complex, more than one guy who did/does beat his wife, (RCMP came to see him) one who beats his dog, (humane society came to see him), a teenager who is under investigation for stalking a 15 yr old girl, and two teenagers (as yet unidentified) who thought that they could make sexual and inappropriate comments to 9 and 11 yr old girls.

Yet these are all the things that neither officialdom nor the media seem to notice or care about. It's like, what do we expect when that's where we live? Yet many of us have been here for a long time. This is our home, for whatever reason. Yes a lot of us might move elsewhere if we had the option but for many of us there is little or no choice right now due to the circumstances of life.

Why ever we are here, this is our home, this is our 'Hood and we are raising our children here. They, and we, deserve the best "Hood that we can have/create. Not one where we're intimidated when walking down the street or worried about being mugged if we're out alone. Maybe it's time for us to take back our streets and our "Hood and make it our own again.